Ella Navarro: FACT or FAUX

MEN are JERKS ..?!

atleast, that’s what all women say. Yes we love them and yes, we want them. But it doesn't change the facts. Oh sure, we know of nice guys — there are still some good boyfriends, husbands, and fathers out there. In fact we’re often quick to name them.

These are good men, decent guys

who treat their wives or girlfriends well.

But even as we enumerate all the guys in the world,we know who are proof that MANkind is not entirely disresputable. In fact, we are never EVER surprised when we hear of one man or another being jerk to a woman. But what is the other side of the coin, Is that the only and essential truth that men are jerks, PERIOD, plain and simple?! Is it not possible that women are AT FAULT, too?

so the question I’d like to pose is:

“If men lie to women and cheat on them,

is it perhaps because women let them??”

Jerkiness of Men &

Foolishness of Women

SAD STORIES:

“We're in a long-distance relationship. Once I started going to college, he started spending more and more time with an "old friend." I'll call her "Belle." It just got to the point where they would spend every waking moment together... once he got off work, he would go to her house and "hang out" until 5am. It got harder and harder to keep in touch with him, and every time we would talk, he would get so angry and defensive. He said things that made me so upset -- "you're so naive" "we live so far away so we're not really in a relationship anyway"..."I don't even really know you. we have nothing in common." And he would compare me to this "Belle" girl like she was the Holy Grail of fashion and street credibility...He confided in her in ways he used to confide in me. I thought he was being emotionally unfaithful and verbally abusive. He has denied ever having sex with her, but really, I'm not so sure. It got to the point where a heated conversation ended with him telling me he hated me, and blaming me for his money/car/work problems. He broke up with me. Then immediately began to pursue her. But Belle refused to be his girlfriend. Eventually he came back to me, the sad part is I accepted it.”

-Aimee

At 23, Mae never considered herself young and foolish. She had a number of boyfriends before meeting Dan, and had been living and working independently from her family for almost a year now. Then she met Dan, a successful business executive through mutual friends at the office and was instantly drawn to his charming ways. They had a few things in common and they shared definite chemical connection. Too quickly, they fell into a relationship. They would spend nights together in her apartment, subject to his busy schedule. She would change the sheets and serve breakfast in bed. He had met all her friends and family. She had yet to meet his. They had never spent the night at his place because he said it was too far, or it hadn’t been cleaned. A few months later, she found out that she was the other woman. The relationship she had with Dan was an adulterous affair on his part. Mae’s heart broke because she honestly believed she wanted to spend the rest together life to Dan. The sad thing is, she still does.

In a Catholic country, like ours; with this all kinds of traditions and superstitions.. many things work against women. Women have come to accept certain things because of so many years of hearing nothing else from their mothers and grandmothers and aunts and older sisters.

The message is perfectly simple, the meaning is clear:

“Men will be Unfaithful. They cannot help themselves.”

I once learned from my mom that during in her generation there is this saying or should I say a damning words of Advice that no matter what happen, you just have to make sure that your husband takes care of you and your children.

What Men Have Said

If men were to be completely honest, you might hear a few things along the following lines:

"Why can't he resist Temptation?"

“One night stands shouldn't mean anything.

It’s just physical. You don’t even

remember the girl afterwards.”

-JIM 21

“I can make love with my girlfriend, and

have sex with another woman. But the point is I know

where my heart is.”
-ROB 19

“When women call you and throw themselves

at you….even though they know you’re supposed

to be committed to someone. The oppurtunity is there,

sayang naman. What are you going to do?

Ba’t mo tatanggihan ang grasya??”
-JP 25

“A guy cheats on a girl when there’s a sexual

component missing in their relationship…

or the spark has gone out of their rel’ship,

even though they might still love the girl.”
-NICK 28

(–These are just information that I gather with my very close guy friends.

And yet, you can ask any guys in the world and you would just hear the same answers.)

I know that we really can’t believe how guys can be so heartless

when it comes to being unfaithful to their partners,

for them making LOVE has a total difference from having SEX.

But I know that for us women it is still the same,

so no matter what we do or try to understand "WE JUST CAN’T"

The Way To Be a WOMAN

Maybe it’s time for us to
stop believing in
fairy tale endings..
Finding a life partner, someone to love who will love you back for the rest of your life is a tricky business.

Any of this can occur anytime:

Problems:

- Arguments can crop up.

- Jealousy can ensue.

- Temptation can get to the best of both men and women

The problem is that most women are brought up on the notion that
it’s supposed to be 'MAGIC', and it’s supposed to 'LAST FOREVER'
MAYBE that’s true in the beginning.
But, for it to last the rest of your life, its going to take a
LOT OF STRUGGLING..
Us GIRLS should keep in mind that Men are very vulnerable to temptations, and they
have to be guard,but not too much..

PEOPLE, BE WISE PLEASE.

Somehow I've realized that :

There is really "no" HAPPILY EVER AFTER, in the sense that you can lie back and believe

that you will be beloved and vise versa. BUT it’s NOT IMPOSSIBLE.. certainly, it can really do happen
ONLY if two people put their minds to committing themselves to their union.